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haha.
beach--our baby will be so damn confused. his daddy like UofL AND UK...then the Colts..and his mommy liking LSU...and the Saints.
lol. we'll have baby onesies for them all. ;-)
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Amanda,
What fabulous news!
You are missed.
and Congratulations!
The best advice, don't listen to everyone's advice.
It can get bothersome and everyone thinks they are right.
Love you.
"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom"-anais nin
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every females labor and delivery is different..
id say go with what you are comfortable with..
you got a good partner, your set.. all else takes care
of itself really.. i never had an epi for any of my 3, sure it
hurt like hell, but that was just my choice..
congrats on the new arrival, a blessing for sure.. 
.. I like dreams of the future better than the history of the past ..
-Thomas Jefferson-
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When I had my daughter 32 years ago, I went totally drug free basically. I do not remember the pain at all. I was thankful I felt every moment of her arrival. The again, while I had some major back labor, I had a pretty easy, very messy delivery time. 32 years ago it was treated as a surgical procedure. Off to ER, no one was allowed to go with me and I did not get to hold her right away.
Hold your baby as soon as possible..ASAPPPPPPPPPPPPPP. That bonding moment is so important. Hold your baby skin to skin, no clothes, gown down to expose your chest for your child to find comfort again. Daddy should be right there. His scent, his touch, his love bonding as the same time with you both. Delivery is a trauma. After care is freaking important for all three of you.
I highly disagree with the "don't listen to everyone's advice" advice. Trying to reinvent the wheel while raising your child could be very costly. I would say listen to it all, discards the "what the fuck are they thinking" advice, make note of the Hmmmmmmmmmmm advice....take the that sounds good advice and work it to fit your family. Oh and some what the fuck are they thinking advice might be now that make sense advice at some point. In any learning venture study well, pay attention, accepts there will be a D or F on occasion. You are human after all.
I have been asking friends what they wish they knew as a parent back "then" that they know now,
here are some answers.
>>>Remember to dance in the rain gutter during the storm, do not wait for the sun to be joyous.
>>>Allow your child to make their own mistakes, as they can be the best teachers.
>>>Try not to make your fears they phobias. Encourage, grit your teeth, be prepare to catch, not scare them into never soaring.
>>>If you want them to behave in a certain way, have manners, be well spoken,find education
important, not do drugs, over drink, swear like a sailor,not smoke, you must show them how not say "Do as I say not as I a do" because to your young child you can do no wrong.
>>>Be a positive part of every step. One thing most every one regrets is doing the drop the kid at the door of the school and drive off quickly to work or what ever. A lot of parents I know and have worked with regret not knowing teachers and staff better. They now know they could have done more to help their child thrive in school.
>>>You need time to relax and so does your child. Swimming.music, juggling the parent's schedule, sports and homework is their job. Give them time to live on their own schedule as well as the one you set for them.
>>>Teach them to frolic. Yes even the boys. To find joy and kindness daily. To run free in the fields chasing butterflies and finding bugs they do not kill simply because they are bugs and some life has no value.
>>>Accept the fact you will make mistakes. Try not to fix the mistakes with bigger mistakes.
>>>You are not your child's friend. You are their parents, their guide, their security, their joy, their sorrow, their strength, moral compass, their everything. They have peers for friends. You are beyond friend. Do not confuse the two. Being the cool parent can be costly. (Some cool parents here local found being the cool parents a hard lesson. A 16 year old died on in their bathroom, cause the parent's thought it was cool to allow drinking in their home. Several teens drank themselves silly. The parents opened the bottles and went to bed. The girl did 20 shots in a short period, died of alcohol poisoning. No one knew the kid was dead for hours.) Monitor your coolness and how it is delivered and perceived.
Every thing you say and do, every person you hang out with or invite in, every negative or false word you speak will have an long lasting impact. At age 25 they may remember why they have been so mad at your for 20 years and it will be hard damage to over come. As a teacher you know we hear more about the personal lives of parents then they want us to know. I know when daddy has a girlfriend, when mommy had a beer that made her fall asleep and who has movies of naked people doing weird stuff. As a teacher you know who smokes and drinks while complaining about having no food or money for heat. You know who can afford big items while telling the children there is no money for clothes or the 5 dollar toy they wanted so badly. The reason we know is not because the children say the parents are wrong. We know because we see the sadness and hear the broken voices as they say they say they understand.
We can make all the jokes about parenting, kids and what ever, but really you are about to start the most rewarding, devastating, all encompassing adventure that may bring you grandchildren do can do every thing right by because hindsight it a wonderful knowledge you will have gained.
Amanda you are a good hearted, intelligent woman that has had some hard moments and some joys. I dio not know you at all any more, I have no doubt thought, that You will figure it out. The true trick of parenting is finding the fine line between serious, firm, in control parenting and the silly, fun, totally relaxed parents.
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I chose to go without being shot in the back for Vo. Didn't want the drug to be in her system and possibly screw with her in any way. That, and I'm a pansy.
Had, I don't know.. maybe six hours of hard back labor slam all at once. After they induced. Had a kinda high drug tolerance so the crap they gave me didn't do shit about "taking the edge off".
Got to finish things off with lots of oxygen. Got nice and stoned somehow off that shit.
Mostly, I don't really remember the pain of labor or anything else.
It all ceased to matter when I saw her.
Only advice I can think of is: while you're pregnant, listen to your body. After you pop them out, listen to your kid more directly.
Always comunicate with them the same as you would anyone else. They're just short people, with a few less years experience on the planet.
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aww. you guys made me tear up. haha. then again, all these damn harmones have got me all weepy at just about anything. lol.
i will keep everything in mind! :-) chris is prepared to do whatever i want in the delivery room..he takes a fair amount of abuse from me now since i'm off my anxiety drugs. -snort-
i bought a Be-Band tonight so i can walk around with my pants unzipped and this comfy spandex band covering the zipper. who knew pregnancy could be so fun! hahaha.
now, i only puke when i over-eat..since my stomach is much tinier than most...and i'm always starving.. that's happened a couple times lately..but i'm not -sick-...so i'm loving it!
xxoo. keep it coming. i'm going to put some of this stuff in my journal at some point..
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Congrats to you both!
All I can say, when the baby is born and while growing up, a lot of people will be giving you advice and opinions. No matter what, in the end....no one knows your baby more than you do. You are the ones who will be spending every day with that child. You will know when the baby is hungry, tired, full, sick, ready for potty training....everything. The scariest thing I can remember with my neice, was the first time she was sick. Not even a year old, red runny nose and cough. Broke my heart to know there was nothing I could do to make it go away in an instant....
There will be sad times, scary times, unsure times....but you'll make it through. Especially if you have good family and/or friends. Also, with all those times....the fun, exciting, happy, precious, and loving times just take over it all.
And by the way, you will never forget the very first time you hold your baby!
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We are finding out the sex (hopefully) in 3 weeks! I'm SOOOO ridiculously excited that it's not funny. Crazy how even getting hand-me-down things like a boppy and a bottle warmer just got me all jittery.
I'll post the news as soon as we know. :-)
xxoo.
trop
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For those who are curious...
It's a girl! :-) Her name will probably be Emmy Elizabeth...and we're ecstatic!
xo.
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