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lil~r- it is the Angel Care Monitor with sensor pad, and I have heard they are fabulous.
my best tips after 5 kids are these- take tons of pictures. They grow up sooo fast, and literally change one day to the next.
Remember to take a little you time. You shouldn't feel guilty taking the time to shower...worst case bring the bouncer seat into the bathroom with you.
When you have a moment where the baby is crying and you think you just can't do it, take a deep breath and remember this five minutes may be hell, but it to shall pass. Then eat chocolate.
And for labor. Make sure you love your OB, and trust him/her completely. It makes all the difference when the big time comes.
Make a plan, but be prepared that it may have to change. And always stick to your guns. They might be doctors, but you know your body best.
Other than that, just sit back and enjoy the ride. It goes fast, but will be the time of your life.
Congrats to you both !!!
Laughter is timeless, Imagination has no age, and Dreams are forever.....
What would you give a man who could make your deepest dreams come true?
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When Our daughter was born I was always complaining about how many pictures she took. When we were blessed with our short time with our son I still complained but now that he has passed away I couldnt thank her more. Capture EVERYTHING on film that you can. And read and sing. All great advice.
Best of luck to you and yours!
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Another tip or two or three 's'
Put him down for his sleeps whilst he's awake. Don't get him into the habit of being in momma's arms to fall asleep. The sooner he learns to self soothe and fall asleep in his own bed by himself, the easier you will have it 's'
Start as you mean to go on. If you don't want your bundle of joy touhing the tv on/off button when he's two, don't let him touch it when he's 6 months old
and remember it takes about a week to form a habit. Having a really bad week of nights, suddenly he wont go down and sleep through like he used to. Stick to your guns, make sure he's safe, okay, fed etc then let him be. He'll yell for a while but will settle. A week and he'll be back to sleeping through. I used ot find this tip really useful and it still applies now he's nearly three. When he's flexing his will over mine and is playing up, I stand firm, tell myself it will only last a few days, and sure enough, within a week, he's realised the rules wont change and accepts them 's'
and yes....LOADS of photo's.....they do grow up so so so fast!!! 's'
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this is really good stuff! thanks guys!!! :-)
ok, one more question here....everyone looks at me like i'm CRAZY when i say i don't want an epidural.... am i nuts? -scrunches nose- it's not some superwoman complex or anything...i just would rather not have the drugs in my system.
thoughts?
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My thoughts on a drug free delivery is to not rule anything out. Take the minutes (or hours) of your birthing experience as they come without limiting yourself with YES I'm getting one or NO I'm not. You may decide after 10 hours of contractions that you need an epidural. Or delivery may happen quickly after only 30 minutes and you didn't even have time to think about an epidural.
My obgyn said "call me when your contractions are 5 minutes apart then come to the hospital"
I never had contractions 5 minutes apart. From the moment my water broke (at home) my contractions were less than 3 minutes apart. They lasted at that interval for maybe 2 hours and then were 1 - 1.5 minutes apart for the next 13 hours of back labor. Personally I could not have gone through those numbing and exhausting hours without the epidural. I never dilated fully and J couldn't pass through.
You don't know what kind of labor you may have (back labor is horrendous) so I would say go with your gut feeling and leave yourself the option of deciding to have epidural if it becomes too much.
Whatever you decide - all that matters is that it feels right to you. Keep us updated (reading all your FB posts has given me the baby itch!)
entropy (11/17/2009)
this is really good stuff! thanks guys!!! :-)
ok, one more question here....everyone looks at me like i'm CRAZY when i say i don't want an epidural.... am i nuts? -scrunches nose- it's not some superwoman complex or anything...i just would rather not have the drugs in my system.
thoughts?
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I am gonna ramble.
Every moment of hard work to help the small you being you are loaned to grow into a successful, emotionally happy human being is worth it. Every tear and every smile will impact you as much as it will your child. This is the most important job. Your future, the future of your child and the world rest with you. Think hard and try not to over think. Work hard and take time to relax. Remember your child is a human being on loan to you. Not a possession, not property, they are a cherished memento to be passed on to the future.
They can be an inconvenience and yet should never be thought of as such.
They are expensive and yet are priceless.
They are demanding and they demand the best part of us if we guide them with loving and discipline.
It is perfectly normal to thing you should beat them and not do it. Take a breath and remember your guilt and negative thoughts should never be their issues.
If you want to help your child to grow into a positive, good hearted, compassionate human being that can use their judgment in a way that helps them being happy, you must role model it. calling some one a bitch, condemning folks (even on the phone) does not go unheard or or without impact. The whole do as I say not as a do it bullshit. Your child see you as always right and the greatest person on earth till you prove them wrong.
Remember 99% of life and what happens is not worth dying over. Spilt milk never killed any one. Simply clean it up with gentle words and a loving smile. Childhood is brief, while math and science and learning to write your name is important..even more important
is running free in a field, dancing in the rain and getting covered in mud.
Help and guide your child to be the best and joyous person they can be and not just a mini you.
They are who they and and forcing them to be who they are not only creates more battles.
It does take a village. Seek all the answers from every source and use what works for you.
Listen, discuss and grow as a parent as your child grows into a human being you cna be proud of in the future.
Remember never to give up, even when you have to stand strong and it seems there is no hope.
We all have our own path to travel to get to the person we will be. you made not like the path, but to totally close the path means it may see far more travel than you like. It may be better to try and narrow the path so it is less attractive.
Empower them to make positive choices by letting them make any many for themselves as possible. If your three year old wants to wear green stripes with purple circles and bright orange socks go for it.fashion sense changes with each year of age. Just look at yourself. Same with hair. It is their hair. After three I think it is their choice. They want it short go for it. Involve them in the cutting process. Such a simple thing can create wonderful self esteem. Even if you do not like it, you love the child and take pride in their abilities it will be easy to allow.
Save the battles for those moments that that are life altering in a major way.
Anyways I guess what I want to say is we suck childhood right out of child as soon as they start to walk. No do not do that, stop that, and all the other stuff we say to 1 sand 2 year old. Then we send them to preschool and they have to sit at group, play like the other kids, not talk at this time and behave like the group in an acceptable manner. They go to school and it gets even worse. Children are more like mini adults at a younger and younger age every year. The best gift and longlasting thing you can give your child is time to be just be a totally accepted and free spirit human being that is approved up even if they do not know how to read the dictionary by 5.
Enjoy
laugh
cuddle
cry
embrace
relax
together
You have a good heart and that is the best first step for a parent. Enjoy the journey and do not create a war.
Do not wait to be a grandparent to see the light of good parenting. Seek those that lived it and listen. Hindsight is a god send for those without it.
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Epidurals...mmmm....I forget who said it, but I agree.....take it one step at a time. Sometimes it goes to plan, other times it does'n't 's' You will know what is right. I went in 5 weeks before my due date for my last scan and was asked to stay in overnight to monitor contractions. Next day, with an hours notice, I was having a c-section, epidural and a theatre full of people and the father still 5000 miles away. Not what I had envisioned for the delivery of my precious one 's'
But I realised afterwards that the delivery is but the smallest part of a magical ride. Those first few days will always stay with you, the very first time you are introduced to each other....a moment so precious, especially between the mom and the baby. You will have forgotten all the hard minutes that came before that moment. You will forget any pain, any embarrasments.....from that moment on, someone else becomes your reason for living.
So wait til you're in there and if you feel you don't need an epidural, then that is fine, but it is equally fine if you do need one. There are no rules regarding this. Trust your body and yourself and do what feels right for you 's'
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*agrees with Daisy*
Those first few moments are so very special. It's all wonderful but that first time you actually get to see who has been rolling, and kicking, and responding is breathtaking. I distinctly remember the doc handing J to the Man and him looking down at him saying "hi buddy, I'm your Daddy." Makes my heart swell and my eyes fill to this day.
Take lots and lots of pictures. While pregnant. During labor. Of a gooey baby. All of it - time seems to fly by at triple speed these days.
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| raise the lil bugger as a Colts fan....*l*...a nice #87 jersey or even a #21....come on over to the dark side darlin....congratulations!!!!
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