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Aww *cos*~
There's never a need to let the whole world know *why* you haven't had your son with you in *X* amount of years honey...! *hugenods*
Just gettin' him BACK must mean you're doin' SOMETHIN' right 'eh sweetie so just continue bein' a loving parent as I'm sure you are and love him to death...just don't overdue it hon cuz you know how teen-agers are at that age?...especially the boys...they're just not into all that mushy stuff ya know...*ggls softly*
But then again...*re-thinks on this one*
My oldest grandson is 13 an he loves it when I hugg on him an all that Gramotherly shit~!
I DO know this much about him bein' a teen-ager tho when we get him every other week-end an durin' his vacation's from school...:
It's his X-Box 360 Live that keeps his ass goin' first...(along with food of course!)
Then its his chatroom for teens on the computer...(along with some MORE food!)
And when I take a break from housework/cooking, I'll go sit next to him an watch him beat the hell outta whomever he's playin' cuz for some reason, he gets a kick outta that~!
And his father (My son) just recently signed him up to take jujitzu...which is somethin' that he's been wantin' to take ever since My son started takin' it a long while back...but his mother never *got around to signing him up*...even tho she had no problem takin' the check from My son to pay for it...(and that was a lonnnnng time ago also!)...*frowns cuz she's another story*
Anyway honey...
Just enjoy him cuz before ya know it...they're old enough to be on their own~! *leaves you an your teen-ager huge huggs then shoves off for now smilin'*
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*hugs on cos..and smiles*
I completely understand your feelings of excitement and panic...they are both well deserved. The best thing you have going for you is the existing bond, and the ever present love. Those will go far. When I met my wife, she had 3 kids alread (ages from 9 to 15) and I stepped into the role of a parent pretty quickly. What I learned is that in some sense, kids that age are self-starting. They can handle in some sense keeping themselves occuppied. I love the ideas you have been given on contacting the rec department and such. If you go to church, your church probably has a youth group he can participate in which can be alot of fun (I used to be a volunteer youth minister). Choosing a good school is important, glad you are looking into that. Day camps at the Y and such with the summer approaching is a good way to meet kids and make friends as well.
I think the biggest advice that I can give is be consistent. Love him always (that is the easy part), but be very even handed with the discipline. He is going through alot of changes right now, physical, social, familial. And being there to "steady his rudder" is one of your jobs. Its difficult not to cater to a child when they are going through a tough time, but you can be loving and constant at the same time. He's old enough to have chores and an allowance. Keep him on top of the chores no matter how grouchy he may get. Talk to him, and listen to him. Love him.
I won't get too preachy or bossy..but above all else this is a wonderful gift for the both of you. You are blessed by it, and I am happy for you.
*hugs*
And always remember, YOU have friends and family to fall back on and give you strength when you need it. Use them..its ok.
*smile*
There is always an adventure to be had in Neverland
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