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"norm" for thousands of years
I love it when the puritanical proselytize. It shows their ignorance of the world and its history.
Polygyny and polyandry are the longest running forms of "marriage" in existence. There are still many cultures that practice it.
Yes, indeed, Hell-bound is the soul that uses free will and thinks with a educated mind borne of experience and not rote vomiting.
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If there are those who believe that "online" is not real....that you can't love someone "online" simply because it isn't physical........then how can you, in all honesty, say that you love a/your god?
Sump'n, sump'n ta think about.
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so you say trust taught through religion is the focus that makes a marriage between two people proper and true eh? And to do otherwise is bullshit and sinful.
well then I guess all followers of the old ways of Islam...and even still some modern nations of Islam...are bullshit? since polygamy is proper and accepted. Well you just said that someone that is so called following the will of Allah..or God...is wrong and unjust. So what gives you the power or insight to determine if that is right or wrong? Once agian its what you have been taught in your religion and your forcing your ideals and what you know is or is not correct.
How does that make you any better? for example, the one whom is insane and truly doesn't see murder as evil; does that make it right for him to claim that he should not be punished? Now since it is obvious that it doesn't make it right, how does it make it wrong to have an open relationship when the other agrees to it, just because you think its wrong or others think its wrong? If both agree no one is getting hurt. No one is being deceived if its agreed to. So tell me again..how can you justify attacking those who believe its what makes them happy?
And actually most societies in the past were built on power and fear...not trust. Nazism, the days of the Crusades. Most dictatorships in history. I can go on and on.
its amazing how quickly the orginal question was forgotten....Adultery does not mean multiple partners...it means to cheat...to sleep in reality or online with another person while decieving the other
its its agreed to then how is it Adultery? And I think that if both agree then even the legal aspect is covered...because you are being faithful if you are doing such things with the fellow wishes of your patnerThis message was edited by xXAshXx{silver} on 4-8-07 @ 1:25 AM |
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| | | | Betrayal of the heart does not take touching someone.
Adultery is a form of betrayal.
If you are hiding what you are doing because you know it will hurt someone you care about or are suppose to be caring about..then it is a betrayal.
Most people I have spoken to about this topic say cyber is not adultery, but yet they would never tell their mate what they are doing. wHY?
You pledge yourself to someone and their are your one and only..then come on line and pledge forever to someone else. Say that someone else is the best thing that ever happen to you. Tell that someone on line that they have made your life the best it can be. How would the rt mate react if they found out?
I do not think it is a matter of adultery. I do not have an issue with people that share, swap or what ever. I think it is more an issue of honesty. How can a person claim to be truthful when the only reason their online can continue is because they lie?
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The other issue for me (and I have allow me to be in this position) is the cyber mate becomes a lie, part of the lie and supports a lair. The cyber mate is denied as even existing. The next question is...How can we deny the person we prefess to deeply love and respect to the point of even knowing them? The phone hangs up, the comp suddenly changesscrenes or goes off. How can we say we are so rpoud of soemone we can not admit to the world we have pride in becuase of the deciept? It sounds more and more like an rt fling, just without the touch...and we all know people that have gone off to be with the married partner (and themselves maybe being married) to get the touch.
The old "My mate does not understand me" bar line..is alive and well in cyber
Now after my ramblings..it is not my business to judge. Every one pays the cost (at some point) for behavior and that cost can be extremely high.
Some times I over think and try to see every side of the issue. The again what is an issue for me...is not of any importance to others.
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| | | | I had a good friend once, whom I knew at the time had cheated on his wife a few times.
Out of curiosity I asked him, "How would you feel if you found out she was cheating on you?"
His answer?
"As long as I don't find out about it."
*blinx*
So, it makes one wonder. If those who feel that "online adultry" is not cheating, would they feel the same way if the shoe was on the other foot?
Of course, most would probably say, "Oh if it's only online, then I wouldn't care.".
It's easy to say that until you've actually experienced it, and I'm sure in order to "save face" for this type of forum/argument, most probably would say that.
I've seen both men and women who take no issue with developing intimate relationships with other people and expect their mate to understand. Yet, when their mate did the same thing, they weren't quite so understanding themselves.
I'm sure we've all committed wrongs (regardless of what they are) against those we are supposed to be in a committed relationship with. (I am no exception to that)But if you continue to condone it, justify it, make excuses for it, then you'd probably do the same for r/t too, if the situation was tempting enough.
But then.........I could be wrong.
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| | | | nadeem - see it-As we must account for every idle word, so must we account for every idle silence: Benjamin Franklin
Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth: Henry D. Thoreau
When the Moors Ruled in Europe
VIDEO: http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-768956312207897325&q=genre%3Areligious
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first of all,,,,,,,,,,
molesters ~Kate,,,,,,,
then skybugger,,,,,,,,
then ~pubya~,,,,,,,,,,
ah what the heck,,,,,,
molesters them all again,,,,,,
adds Lara in there too, cuz I liked what she said bout da churches,,,,,
spanks Jane~a~Plenty, cuz she gets all pissy when I molesterize her,,,,,,,
now I know what yer thinkin',,,,,
Me,of all,,,, to talk religion,,,
ahhhhhhhhh ye of little faith,,,,
is it the action???
or merely the intent, the thought, the implication???
good thing for forgiveness eh folks,
all ya gotta do is believe n ask
spanks ~Kate,,,,,,,,lyabb
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| | | | Hey everybody! I'm new to the site and was interested in this posting. First, let me say that I believe if you're married to someone you have pledged yourself only to that person - for better or for worse. However, nobody can be inside of another's marriage and, therefore, cannot make judgments. However, all people are entitled to their opinions and beliefs.
So far, you're all discussing online adultery in the concept of one-on-one interactions ... I would like to know how you would view the following scenario?
You go into your office, close and lock the door, and enter an adult chat room, turn on your webcam and settle in for an all-nighter with people from all over the world while your wife and children are asleep?
Is this considered adultery? Or, would the wife be overreacting to feel betrayed?
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