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Being gay, liking same sex, being bi-sexual liking both sexes. Being straight like the oppositte sex.
Everything else is socialogical. Women have pressured men into being homaphobic. America's views on this come very much from England. Our views were very much given to us by Queen Victoria.
She thought it was rude and disgusting. Women of that day never touched or held hands as they do now. They never kissed each other, they just were happy. Been held hands and kissed, even had sex just for pleasure with each other. Nothing was ever thought of it until Queen victoria brought in a Law. Whereby anyman found to be Gay was put in prision. Not nice prisons like We have now but ones where you died a slow death. You were forgotten and every day you begged for food.
To add to this she even brought in a simple bribe to everyone to stop this "manly" behaviour. People who were involved in the arrest of a "gay" man were givena reward. So that led to every man very quickly becoming very very mistrusting of other men with their feelings and bottling everything up. It stopped men from being openly affectionatte with one another.
What about women I hear you say. Well queen victoria never even let it enter her head women could be gay. That they could "tip the velvet". So they were left well alone. So now women laugh and have fun and openly kiss one another and have sex with one anotehr for pleasure. They can be openly be lesbian (okay in some states in the US ya can't... you are 200 years behind in teh legal sense).
So why this? Well it gives a little insight into why being a male is extremly difficult. We have better jobs and get more money and yes maybe we can go to pubs. At what cost?
A woman can be free to explore her emotions and decide on everything. A male can not.
So simply. Being Gay is not a choice. Sometimes having sex with only one sex IS a choice. But being Gay is not. Just as being Hetrosexual is not a choice.The old Olfactory nerve overides everything.
Just getting a bit sick and tired of people saying "but you don't understand.. " Of course I bloody don't I'm not you and your certainly not me. We only understand ourselves (if we are lucky). We can sympathise and maybe have experienced the same things but Never are we all the same.
Get over it. Being Gay is not a special club where only those who are KNOW. We all know. We all have to deal with relationships with people in our own ways.
Sorry.
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At what age did you choose to be a heterosexual? Or to put more clearly, did you choose to be attracted to the opposite sex?
What homosexual experiences did you have before that time in order to develop an informed choice?
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[/i]However, I do not believe that we can equate the actions of the animal kingdom with the actions of humans.
Um.........humans ARE of the Animal Kingdom.
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Get over it. Being Gay is not a special club where only those who are KNOW. We all know. We all have to deal with relationships with people in our own ways.
The day you experience what its like knowing you probably won't be allowed to make your partners dream of being a bride true;the day you experience being kicked out of your own home and disowned by your own parents for merely following your heart and being true to yourself;the day you walk down the street holding your girlfriends hand and have everyone look at you as if you're the scum of the earth....that day...you can sit here and say "Being Gay is not a special club where only those who are KNOW."
I'm sitting here saying....'only those who are know.'
Because i am. And because i know.
Yes,life is full of prejudices. To all different social groups,racial groups,gender etc etc. But this is the GLBT boards. Which is why prejudice against members of the GLBT community is discussed.
Live.
Love.
Laugh.
Sleep Later.
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i think sexual preference is not a choice. i hope to be around long enough to see my grandson grow to adulthood. i love him to death and have never seen a child like him although i'm sure there are many. since day 1 he has loved to play with barbies, he wants to be a cheerleader, he's taken ballet, he's done my hair, he also likes trucks, cars, and "boy's toys" and he's only 7. his father used to get upset and the adult men we know would be horrified but they have learned that's who he is. he is so fun to be around. will he be gay, bi or straight? i don't know and unlike a lot of people i don't care. i just hope he's happy and that all people will have the right to be who they are and not be harrassed or belittled by others.
i'm sorry i have a tendency to run on and speak from my heart ~s~
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