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ms nixie, as the parent of both a very out-going, socially adept child and an autistic child, I can tell you that it's perfectly normal for some children to hold their parents hand while walking to class - for some it ends on the second day of school and for others it ends later on. The child is the best indicator of when to let go of the habit - not the school- and like it or not, also not you.
Of course, you might want to check your motives out - that is, give him the opportunity to decline your assistance one day. (for example, a few classes away from his, stop and ask him if he thinks he's up to walking the rest of the way himself)And be sure that you are TRULY giving him a choice that isn't laced with your fears. (For example,don't ask "Are you sure you can walk down that long hallway all by yourself?", rather, "So, do you think you can make it to your class from here? I'm really not up to walking all the way.") There is the remote possibility that he might be ready to let go - in which case you should let him go and praise his bravery. If he say's he's not ready, then he isn't ready and you should continue to give him the reassurance that this practice obviously lends.
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| my son has a speech/language delayed but even if he didnt...when i walk him to his class in the morning..i hold his hand...and if anyone ever said that to me...i'd tell them to kiss my tush ...hes 6 1/2 and has no problem with me holding his hand...there are times when ive walked him 1/2 way and then waited till he gets to his class before i go but till the day when he tells me not to do it anymore..i'll be doing it
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I worked in child care for years and have cirtificates in child care, infants Im still learning *lol*. When your child is ready to be socialy independant then he will make that choice. For now the safety and comfort of his mother are important to him. I wouldnt stop it I were you. If you take that away, it may stunt him because the safety and confidence is gone.
Im really haveing trouble putting into words what I mean *L*
Ive worked in day cares, as a nanny etc.
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While I don't have experience with an autistic child I do have two children of my own. At an early age one was very extroverted, one was very introverted, and BOTH were hand holders. They are now 14 and 17, and appear to have turned out perfectly fine  . Both are now extremely outgoing and social. In fact, the introverted one who held my hand the longest is the MOST outgoing of the two now.This message was edited by ChantillyLace on 3-6-06 @ 7:35 PM
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My son is almost 14 and I still walk him out to his bus. I only hold his hand on days where the pavement is slick with ice so that he doesn't fall. He has cerebral palsy so balance isn't one of his strong points. Walking him to his bus is my way of insuring that he makes it there in one piece since the neighborhood I live in isn't exactly 100% safe.
I see nothing wrong with you holding your child's hand since he is still quite young. I'd be telling them to get bent!
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dawg!
6 children?, heck you have to be either 60 physically or emotionally by now or both....haha
umm, YIKES!
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nix...i deal with 57 children a day who have either some for of social problem, behavioral problem, or educational problem. and i bet if half of them had had a parent who walked them to class and actually gave a shit about their education and about them...they would be in a "regular ed" setting right now.
i'd kill for some parental involvement sometimes. instead, i normally get disconnected numbers and parents who don't show up to conferences because something better came along..or they just forget. because that's about how important it is.
i'm not saying all of them..but most of them. then when i do get one involved, they are the type that thinks their child does nothing wrong because he is brought up in a christian home..or because he's the baby and should just get his way anyways.
so..please please don't ever think you're doing something wrong by holding his hand...i bet he'll remember it when he grows up..and his teachers shouldn't take you for granted: a parent who cares. they're slim pickin' where i teach.
xo.
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I was recently called to a meeting with my son's school and one of the topics raised was how I'm "stunting" his social growth due to the fact that I hold his hand and walk him to class.
Why the hell is this school's business? Don't they have better things to do. This is crazy. The public schools in this country are out of control if this is one of their priorities....
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I'm betting this is a public school.
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As a teacher I see no problem with walking the little ones to class and handholding. Only time I see it getting to be an issue of "growth stunting" is when it carries into the middle school grades.
I work in a Catholic school that is very parent oriented and so its not unusual for me to see many of the parents coming into the building at the start of the day. As long as they aren't a disruption to the morning going-ons then its not a problem for me.
Do what feels right for you and your child. -s- No one but you knows whats better for your little one.
*edits to add*
Note to BarbaraJean - It actually is part of a school/teacher's responsibility to watch for social and emotional growth in a child not just the book learning aspect of school. This message was edited by ~Liz~ on 3-12-06 @ 1:58 PM
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