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I am a 71 y/o real time Dominant who also spends time in NHB and--more specifically--the Chamber. I have lived the D/s life for more than 50 years and was originally introduced to it while stationed in Southeast Asia during the late 1960s.
I am 5'7", 165lbs, blond/blue, with close-cropped hair, a muscular body, and strong hands.
Over the years I have had several r/t submissives, including My current wife who has health issues that keep her from being as active as we would like. Although I do have a couple of r/t subs with whom I occasionally spend time, O/our relationships are primarily no-strings-attached. Although that is physically fulfilling it is mentally not so much. The last dozen years or so I have taken cyber subs to better fulfill My mental and emotional needs. Cyber works well for Me because My fundamental belief is that 90% of D/s is 100% mental. I also never lose sight of the fact that there are real people on the other side of the computer screen.
Over the years My hard limits have been winnowed down to the usual ones in that I don't do scat, children, scarification, medical or electrical play. Other than those I am very open and experienced, and I try never to do anything in cyber that I haven't done (or won't do) in r/t.
Different Dom/mes have different 'control' needs and Mine center around focusing solely on My submissive's growth and blossoming. Unlike those Dom/mes who practice orgasm denial (which is Their right), I revel in My sub's orgasms--the more and more often the better. My pleasure comes from the touch, taste, sight, sound, and smell of her cumming, both of us knowing that 1) each orgasm is orchestrated by Me, and 2) she must have My permission before letting herself go for My enjoyment.
Although I can be a very hard taskmaster I am neither cruel nor unreasonable. I enjoy a good mindfuck, the goal being that My sub is never quite sure what may happen next--nor when, nor where, nor how. I find that mindfucks keep the spice in the relationship, not to mention keeping her on edge and just a bit apprehensive.
Finally, I see My role as always setting My sub up for success, not failure. I work hard to never take her 'somewhere' unless I am convinced that she's ready to make the journey. There aren't a lot of bad destinations in D/s, but there is a ton of bad timing. I subscribe to the 3 three basic tenets of a healthy D/s relationship: Truth, Trust, and Respect. I give those to My sub and expect the same in return.
We all have good days and bad days, times when r/t kicks our ass or cyber disappoints us or we are ill or depressed. As a sub, My expectation of you is pretty simple--I want 100% of what you are capable of on any given day. you don't get to fake it or phone it in. you must give Me all you have today which may be more or less than yesterday or tomorrow. Speaking of submissives, I am currently in a relationship with scorpi(girl) who is truly a treasure.
I could go on, but I'm sure you get the drift of Me now. I'm very approachable so don't hesitate to speak to Me in the room. Check My taglines because they change frequently and are an indication of where My head is at the moment. My reds are always open so feel free to send Me one--or a pager message.
Take care of yourself. Be well and safe. Enjoy this life in whatever way fulfills your needs.
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